Don’t Get Distracted by the Details

I published a Bible plan titled Distractions Causing Distance. In it, I discussed how the things around us—social media, busyness, entertainment, even our own thoughts—can distract us from cultivating our relationship with God and our loved ones.

A passage of Scripture in Luke 10 reminded me of that plan—but this time, it challenged me more profoundly.

Too often, we become so excited and passionate about our purpose that we pour more effort into the work than into the relationships that matter most. We become distracted by the details.

The Work Is Important—But Not Always Most Important

Let’s be honest: discovering your purpose is exciting! Working on your purpose is energizing and fulfilling. Time flies when you’re in that zone. You’re productive. You’re helping others. You feel alive.

So when someone questions that focus—or worse, interrupts it—it’s easy to get defensive.

“I’m doing something meaningful. Why would you stop me?”

That’s where Martha found herself.

The Scene: Purpose vs. Presence

Martha invited Jesus into her home—a huge honor. I imagine she wanted to impress Him and make this dinner unforgettable. I picture her preparing a southern-style feast that rivals Thanksgiving: 20 to 30 dishes, each crafted with care and passion.

Meanwhile, Mary was… hanging out—sitting at Jesus’ feet, laughing, listening, and enjoying His presence.

Martha, sweating and mumbling in the kitchen, eventually burst into the room:

“Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”

Jesus didn’t scold her, but He did correct her:

“My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! [42] There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”

At that moment, presence mattered more than preparation.

Martha’s work wasn’t wrong. Her intentions weren’t bad. But she missed the opportunity to be with the One who made the moment meaningful.

My Wake-Up Call: “Not Right Now”

This story hits home for me in a personal way.

My purpose is to energize and mentor the next generation of great leaders. That purpose drives everything I do—my career, writing, speaking, and especially the Parent-Child-Connect platform.

One day, while I was deep into some important work, my youngest daughter asked if we could go ride bikes. It would’ve taken 10 to 30 minutes—nothing major.

But I hesitated.

Why? Because I thought: Some kids need me right now. I can’t be distracted.

That thought rocked me.

My child asked for a moment with me, and I initially said “no” in the name of “purpose.”

I told her, “Not right now,” but something inside me wouldn’t let that be the final answer. I saw her face. I saw the opportunity I was about to miss. So I changed my mind, and we rode.

What’s Really Important?

That one decision may seem minor. But for those driven by passion, saying “no” becomes second nature—even to those closest to us. If we’re not careful, we can build something great and lose the people we built it for.

So here’s my challenge to you:

Take a second look at what you consider important today.

• What’s pulling your attention, even with good intentions?
• What details are keeping you from divine moments?
• Who needs your presence more than your productivity?

Don’t let your pursuit of purpose cause you to miss the people who matter most. Don’t get distracted by the details.